Have you ever thought you could develop a lasting relationship with someone special only if she was not already tied up with someone else? Then the opportunity comes again and you really do not know what to do? Yes, she was free and open to dating and seeing a guy at work. I approached her with the idea of going out. She thanks me and says she is in a relationship. Then very shortly after that she announces she is getting married to her high school friend. Nope, not the guy at work but yet another guy. Things were all chocolate covered strawberries and roses. The world was perfect for her. She was at last happy and saying she thought it would never happen to her. A year passes and things are still going good. I feel that yet again someone was the lucky man, not me but she was in the arms and waking up beside someone else. My fantasy still would need to be just that, a fantasy. Then today I ask, hows married life? Still going good? Here response, don't ask. I had seen her at lunch with the guy at work again. Thinking are they an item again. What happened to hubby. I then told her boy, relationships, they are hard to start, hard to end, and not easy in-between. She responded the only thing she disagreed with was the hard to start part.
So I ask you, what do I do. Do I ask her out again. Do I be bold? Am I OK with yet another rejection? When is it the right time to make the move? What would Jessica Parker say? Would she say be careful of damaged goods.
Monday, June 27, 2011
Sunday, June 26, 2011
In The Beginning there was Man
OK, I am feeling the need to write again. This blog I will not share with anyone that I know. Just do not want anyone that I know to figure out that I have a dark side, a sadistic side, a confused side, and may say something that would or could offend some of my family or friends. With that said, I hope to hear from readers to tell me just how wrong or right I am.
Today's rant is my thinking about men who father children for the 15 seconds of joy and then walk off leaving there sperm to create a liability for the woman to deal with. The states are overwhelmed, unwilling, or simply unable to deal with the ever growing epidemic. In most cases this forces the woman into a life of poverty. Unable to afford or find dependable child care results is missed work. Then employers unsympathetic fire the woman. States then start cutting welfare. I could write a book on this subject. Grand parents in some cases take over the responsibility of raising yet another group of bastard kids. I really do not remember ever seeing grand parents raising small children when I was growing up. It was simply not done. My parents always stayed together for the sake of the kids. I did the same thing. The kids came first and were raised by two parents. Now we have nurseries in the High Schools, tech sex education and hand out condoms, that must never get used. The flood of kids having kids continue.
I am not so old to not remember the driving forces of hormones. I think during my younger years my brain was still in development and easily cut off when the hormones started pulsing through my blood system and my lower joy stick. This was designed in humans to assure the propitiation of the species. But kids today think sex is just something to do on a Saturday night or any night for that matter. No regard to the result. And no way are they getting married and work together to support the child.
So what do we do. First, the states need to put serious pressure on the fathers to help provide support. Not a slap on the wrist. But serious consequences. If the father is unwilling or unable to find employment then they work for the state to do something then the state helps provide support. If the father has assets they are frozen till the back child support is caught up. The debit never goes away. Then start giving the care giver, (grand parents) equal rights with the parents. So they can go after the father legally. After all they are providing support for the grand child. We need to change the law if the father is more than six months behind on child support he get no visitation rights. Not that most of the fathers care about that anyway. But at least it is something. Well tune in tomorrow for more of my observations, rants, and raves.
Today's rant is my thinking about men who father children for the 15 seconds of joy and then walk off leaving there sperm to create a liability for the woman to deal with. The states are overwhelmed, unwilling, or simply unable to deal with the ever growing epidemic. In most cases this forces the woman into a life of poverty. Unable to afford or find dependable child care results is missed work. Then employers unsympathetic fire the woman. States then start cutting welfare. I could write a book on this subject. Grand parents in some cases take over the responsibility of raising yet another group of bastard kids. I really do not remember ever seeing grand parents raising small children when I was growing up. It was simply not done. My parents always stayed together for the sake of the kids. I did the same thing. The kids came first and were raised by two parents. Now we have nurseries in the High Schools, tech sex education and hand out condoms, that must never get used. The flood of kids having kids continue.
I am not so old to not remember the driving forces of hormones. I think during my younger years my brain was still in development and easily cut off when the hormones started pulsing through my blood system and my lower joy stick. This was designed in humans to assure the propitiation of the species. But kids today think sex is just something to do on a Saturday night or any night for that matter. No regard to the result. And no way are they getting married and work together to support the child.
So what do we do. First, the states need to put serious pressure on the fathers to help provide support. Not a slap on the wrist. But serious consequences. If the father is unwilling or unable to find employment then they work for the state to do something then the state helps provide support. If the father has assets they are frozen till the back child support is caught up. The debit never goes away. Then start giving the care giver, (grand parents) equal rights with the parents. So they can go after the father legally. After all they are providing support for the grand child. We need to change the law if the father is more than six months behind on child support he get no visitation rights. Not that most of the fathers care about that anyway. But at least it is something. Well tune in tomorrow for more of my observations, rants, and raves.
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